The music flowed like medicine, gently relaxing fingers
where my soul had become a fist closed tight.
Over my senses it came, like springtime drifting through a window,
this invitation to the whole and small of me.
“Father, I want you to hold me,”
the slow healing sound offered me words
to wrap around the lonesome inside.
“I want to rest in your arms today,”
sang someone who sounded tired like me.
Tired of hard trying and hiding
and making like I was fine.
There came a hush to my noise as the song ached low
and with it came permission here to be not quite fine at all.
“Hold me,” I sang to this presence who enfolded me in a way that felt protective.
Here I sensed protection from judgement, from evaluation,
from every driving, pushing, accusing thing i’d ever run from.
Here was a love to run to,
and my voice dropped whisper-low as I sang the words,
“I bring all my cares and I lay them at your feet.”
This moved across my tender places so hard that I drew my breath in sharp
and let it go slow,
slow as a lifetime.
Here, with this benevolent being, this gently-there presence,
were no musts about another something else to do.
There was nothing here to earn. No performance allowed.
And I heaved a tearful relief, exhausted from effort,
and from being angry over the notion that I had to try.
And so I began to show up to the music,
to meet with God there,
and so great was the peace of this place that I wondered whether I could ever
be moved to fear again.
Because this Love wasn’t impressed with me.
This freedom from evaluation felt delicious to me.
“I’m impressed” were words I’d learned to pocket
like tokens of my worth.
This had come with a hefty side of insecurity
because being impressive is such a random spark-of-brilliance kind of thing.
You never know when it will fire
or just leave you standing in the dark.
And I was tired of feeling exposed and having to hustle to cover myself.
Yet here I was,
all splayed out and weepy and unraveled and felt somehow safer still.
This began to heal the all of me
from every little bit of un-love I would ever know.
The relief swelled up inside and ran down my cheeks.
Here was a door only open,
a Love always there.
In those awkward places of pain,
those anxious parts that didn’t seem anywhere to belong,
in every tender, posing, hard, off-putting,
game-playing, humiliated place,
God was in the music and rocked me safe
in arms of Love.
“I feel your arms holding me, I’m not alone.”
– Brian Doerksen
“The real ‘work’ of prayer is to become silent and listen to the voice
that says good things about me,
to gently push aside and silence the many voices that question goodness
and trust that I will hear the voice of blessing.”
– Henry Nouwen