trail markers and tools….

I wish I could relax with you on a quilt in the grass
and tell you how amazing and valuable and utterly beautiful I think you are.
Before we parted I’d squeeze your hand and slip a little package of these bites of art to you
with a hug and a smile and a maybe a pray if you want
so you could take away some playful mile markers,
of the journey we’ve shared.

If I quoted anyone,  it would likely be Melody Beattie because her words,
they’re just so good and I want to remember a few of them exactly.
Like this:

Nurturing yourself is neither silly nor self-indulgent.
It’s how we show love for ourselves,
(building)  loving relationships with ourselves that work
so we can have loving relationships with others that work.”

  I love that….sing it,  Melody.

I’d also share this
-my life coach and friend,  Anjie,  showed me and it’s really helpful.
Whenever I’m feeling
H ungry,  A ngry,  L onely   or  T ired,
Just stop for a moment and ask:
what do I need to do right now
to take care of myself?

(like take a walk,  power nap,  call a friend,  leave,  drink some tea,
say no,  re-schedule,  go home,  get out and play……etc)

Yeah,  I’d pack you up a helpful little tool bag and wrap it in some pretty cord
and leave it with you,  if I could.

I’ve loved this visiting season
-so glad to be tramping across the earth with you
…..hope you can feel my smile.


  1. Kimber Britner on August 28, 2013 at 8:55 pm

    So sweet!

  2. Elephant's Child on August 28, 2013 at 9:15 pm

    In this last month I have walked with you, laughed with you, wondered at nature with you – and been so grateful for your warm and supportive wisdom and presence.
    Thank you.

  3. Bren on August 29, 2013 at 5:11 am

    An afternoon spent with you would be soul refreshing, and I’d cherish your art gems and give you a piece of my art, that way we would have tiny parts of each other to cheer our days. Love the HALT, going to have to use that and Melody helped me so much when I found her writings a number of years back. Good stuff Jen!

  4. Michele Bergh on August 29, 2013 at 6:39 am

    Oh, I love Melody Beattie! The quote is an awesome reminder of the importance of nurturing ourselves!

  5. Kathy on August 29, 2013 at 6:47 am

    Your title is so awesome! Trail markers and tools, ah! I LOVE this. I have been reading the daily prayers and meditations of Melody Beattie, thanks to you Jennifer! I take notes…the inspiration that she shares is so useful to me and to my spirit, and so are your words and letters: HALT is brilliant! Thanks, kath

  6. Suzanne McRae on August 29, 2013 at 8:01 am

    How lovely, another wonderful post. I love the meaning of HALT. I don’t have the tendency to stop and ask myself, ‘what do I need right now in order to take care of myself’. Wonderful post Jennifer.

  7. Nancy on August 29, 2013 at 8:25 am

    This the words I needed to hear so thank you….I love the meaning of HALT and I will definitely try to remember next time I am feeling “out of whack”…..An afternoon with you would be wonderful and so refreshing because I love the way you think……

  8. Anne Camblin on August 29, 2013 at 8:55 am

    Thought of you yesterday when I was floating around in my pool……yes, just floating around. How good it is to take time to feed ourselves (and our souls) first. Bless you, my friend and keep sharing the wisdom with us all!

  9. Julia Bourque on August 29, 2013 at 9:10 am

    I would love sitting on a quilt on the grass with you and share some friendship of souls.Thanks for always stirring emotions to the surface until I can recognize them for what they are on this shared journey.

    May your wings always be strong and your mind always be peaceful.

  10. jeanie on August 29, 2013 at 9:59 am

    Oh, Jennifer — we would love each gift, but the greatest of all would be spending time with you. And thanks for HALT — I’ll remember that.

  11. Donna on August 31, 2013 at 9:58 am

    I think you have given us that litle bag of goodies through these posts…I will try to HALT more often.

  12. Donna on August 31, 2013 at 9:58 am

    I think you have given us that litle bag of goodies through these posts…I will try to HALT more often.

  13. Judy Hartman on August 31, 2013 at 1:39 pm

    Yes, I do feel your smile, your big heart, your wisdom. Funny, I’ve wondered if you do any life coaching. I think you would be wonderful at it. At the very least, a beautiful book with your writings would be so welcomed. Meanwhile, reading your blog is always such a thought provoking and joyful experience!

  14. Eva on September 1, 2013 at 8:25 am

    Jennifer…have loved reading all your thoughts…and your artwork, as always, is simply beautiful! Thanks for including us all in your journey. I, too, love Melody Beattie. Her books got me through a hard time, too. Now, I love the meaning of HALT and will use it often! 🙂
    I love you, too, my dear “old” friend…from your “old” friend….xoxoxo

  15. Sharon leaf on September 1, 2013 at 8:54 am

    Nurture! Nurture! Nurture! Swim! Swim! Swim! Jen! Jen! Jen!

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