simple enough…


This business of being fully alive
is such an optional  thing.
We get to choose numbness or allow space for the pain
And when we give the pain room to say it’s bit
we live out our choosing what to do with it
Love and freedom seem to thrive when we don’t dumb the suffering down
so the hard choice
at least
seems simple enough.

“But life is persistent,
slipping into your consciousness sideways,
catching you with a fleeting moment of color,
the unexpected and comforting smell
of a neighbor’s dinner cooking
as you walk on a winter evening,
the feeling of water running between your fingers as you wash dishes.
There is nothing as seductive as reality.”
-Erica Bauemeister


  1. Julia Bourque on August 25, 2013 at 8:07 pm

    I too often allow numbness to take over instead of putting up with the pain. To be fully alive is to allow ourselves to feel deeper and sometimes to own the pain. Growing is painful.

    Wishing you a happy rest of summer.

  2. Judy Hartman on August 25, 2013 at 10:50 pm

    I’m jumping back into your month of daily posts, Jennifer. I’ve been away, but plan to go back and read all that I’ve missed.
    This post speaks right to my heart. Two days ago I lost a wonderful mentor and friend to cancer, and the pain is definitely “saying its bit”. But you’re right – it’s a matter of choosing what to do with it. I can honor her by living my life more positively and fiercely, as she encouraged me to do.
    I’m very grateful to have found you and your inspiring words, Jenn. You, too, bring me to a higher level and I’m very thankful.

  3. Elephant's Child on August 25, 2013 at 11:48 pm

    I had defined it as choosing life, over an existence. And yet again, am wowed by your careful selection of words and image to illustrate this truth.
    Life hurts, but the beauty more than compensates for the pain.

  4. Bren on August 26, 2013 at 7:23 am

    That is one powerful insight my friend. Straight to the point and quotable! Love the photo too

  5. Kathy on August 26, 2013 at 7:32 am

    Moving through the pain…i do believe in this. Recently, I made a choice over a great loss…and am healing after feeling. Opening up a space… Love to you friend. Keep that faith and strength of love in you. You are beautiful. Kath

  6. Suzanne McRae on August 26, 2013 at 7:46 am

    It’s so true the business of choosing to live a full life is optional. We have choices in every moment of everyday to do as we please. Sometimes we choose pain and suffering, sometimes for a little while, other times for much longer, other times we choose peace. Its always there for us to turn towards if we so desire to live life fully in that moment. Beautiful once again! xo

  7. Wanda on August 26, 2013 at 7:58 am

    I agree with Bren such great insight and what power there is in choice.

  8. Nancy on August 26, 2013 at 9:22 am

    I had a friend who used to say we put hurt and pain in a gunny sack and carry it around on our back instead of dealing with it…Great words of wisdom and I so appreciate your heart and that you share it with us….

    Hugs my friend….

  9. jeanie on August 27, 2013 at 4:14 pm

    Right now I am feeling way over stimulated — so excited with possibilities, so fearful (a little) and knowing my life is gong to change. People are being so kind it makes me cry. I feel like Sally Field when she won her Oscar and I understand her. Trying to take in all of life… and not quite knowing how.

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