I’ve been reading instead of writing this weekend,
feasting on an artful cluster of healing stories by Rachel Naomi Remen
and, wow, I want to serve it up, this goodness I’ve been feeding on
……some nips of nectar
to nourish your bright wings:)
~ “The life in us is diminished by judgment far more frequently than by disease.
Our own self-judgment or the judgment of others.
this judgment does not only take the form of criticism.
Approval is also a form of judgment,
but we are harmed by it in far more subtle ways.
To seek approval is to have no resting place, no sanctuary.
Like all judgment, approval encourages constant striving.
It makes us uncertain of who we are and of our true value.
This is as true of the approval we give ourselves as it is of
the approval we offer others.
Approval can’t be trusted.
It can be withdrawn at any time no matter what our track record has been.
It is as nourishing of real growth as cotton candy.
Yet many of us spend our lives pursuing it.”
“A label is a mask life wears.
We may need to take our labels and even our experts far more lightly.
In my experience, a diagnosis is an opinion and not a prediction.
Like a diagnosis, a label is an attempt to assert control and manage uncertainty.
It may allow us the security and comfort of a mental closure
and encourage us not to think about things again.
But life never comes to a closure; life is process, even mystery.
Life is known only by those who have found a way to be comfortable with change
and the unknown. Given the nature of life, there may be no security,
but only adventure.”
“I don’t need stress to do what I need to do.
That isn’t efficient.
Love and sanity are.”
(from her brilliant Loving What Is)